16.9.09
公司抑郁症
fr an article on omy. a study done in korea. i guess it applies to most of us here in sg too.
-女性比男性更普遍(pbly men don't think that much and just work away)
-年龄40-50岁的比率最高 (meaning we're only beginning to feel this way nw, damn)
原因:
-不明朗的公司未来(not too sure, n don't reali care)
-对自己未来的不确定性(confirmed. problem is me ultimately)
-过度的工作量(reducing..)
-与领导的关系(so so)
-组织中模糊的位置(no belonging..yes indeed)
-不根据业绩调薪水(don't exist at all)
克服方案:
-烟和酒 (top!)
-向朋友和家人诉说(doesnt help at all)
-运动等业余爱好(yea running, rollerblading at the beach, picnics or juz sitting infront of the sea)
-准备跳槽到其他公司(always on the mind..haha)
-女性比男性更普遍(pbly men don't think that much and just work away)
-年龄40-50岁的比率最高 (meaning we're only beginning to feel this way nw, damn)
原因:
-不明朗的公司未来(not too sure, n don't reali care)
-对自己未来的不确定性(confirmed. problem is me ultimately)
-过度的工作量(reducing..)
-与领导的关系(so so)
-组织中模糊的位置(no belonging..yes indeed)
-不根据业绩调薪水(don't exist at all)
克服方案:
-烟和酒 (top!)
-向朋友和家人诉说(doesnt help at all)
-运动等业余爱好(yea running, rollerblading at the beach, picnics or juz sitting infront of the sea)
-准备跳槽到其他公司(always on the mind..haha)
15.9.09
Does love exist?
“The Mastery of Love”, author Don Miguel Ruiz
There was an ordinary man just like you and me, but what made this man special was his way of thinking – “he thought love does not exist”. Of course, he had observed the people around him and had many experiences trying to find love. Much of his life has been spent searching for love, only to find that love did not exist.
Wherever this man went, he used to tell people that love is nothing but an invention of the poets, and invention of religions just to manipulate the weak mind of humans, so that they can have control over humans. He said that love is not real, and that is why no human could ever find love even though he might look for it.
This man was highly intelligent, and he was very convincing that he could stand in any public place, in front of any kind of people, and share his thoughts, and his logic is very strong. He read a lot of books, he went to the best universities, and he became a respected scholar. What he said was that love is just like a drug, it makes you very high, but it creates a strong need. You can become highly addicted to love, but what happens when you don’t receive your daily doses of love? Just like a drug, you need your everyday doses.
He used to say that most relationships between lovers are just like a relationship between a drug addict and the one who provides the drugs. The one who has the biggest need is like the drug addict; the one who has little need is the one who controls the whole relationship. You can see this dynamic so clearly because usually in every relationship there is one who loves the most and the other who doesn’t, and who only takes advantage of the one who gives his or her heart. You can see the way they manipulate each other, their actions and reactions, and they are just like the provider and the drug addict.
The drug addict is the one who has the biggest need, lives in constant fear that perhaps he will not be able to get the next dosage of love, or the drug he so desire to. The drug addict thinks, “What am I going to do if she leaves me?” That fear makes the drug addict very possessive. “That’s mine!” The addict becomes jealous and demanding, because the fear of not having the next dosage. The provider can control and manipulate the one who needs the drug by giving more doses, fewer doses, or no doses at all. The one who has the biggest need completely surrenders and will do whatever he can to avoid being abandoned.
The man went on explaining to everyone why love doesn’t exist. “What human call ‘love’ is nothing but a fear relationship based on control. Where is the respect? Where is the love they claim to have? There is no love. The young couples in front of the representation of God, in front of their family and friends, made a lot of promises to each other; to live together forever, to love and respect each other, to be there for each other, through the good times and the bad times. They promise to love and honor each other, and make promises and more promises. What is amazing is that they really believe these promises. But you can see that none of these promises are kept after one week, one month, or few months after the marriage”.
“What you find is a war of control to see who will manipulate whom. Who will be the provider, and who will have the addiction? You will find, few months later after their marriage, that the respect they swear to have for each other is gone. You can see the resentment, the emotional poisons, and how they hurt each other, little by little, and It grows and grows, until the love stops. Somehow, they do not even know when it stops. They stay together because they are afraid to be alone, afraid of the opinions and judgments of others, and also afraid of their own judgments and opinions. However, where is the love (that they once knew they had)?
He used to claim that he saw many old couples that had lived together thirty years, forty years and fifty years, and they were so proud to have lived together all those years. However, when they talked about their relationship, what they said was, “We survived the matrimony.” That means one of them surrendered to the other; at a certain time, she gave up and decided to endure the suffering. The one with the strongest will and less need won the war, but where is that flame they call love? They treat each other like a possession: “She is mine.” “He is mine.”…
The man went on and on about all the reasons why he believed love doesn’t exist, and he told others, “I have done all that already. I will no longer allow anyone to manipulate my mind and control my life in the name of love.” His arguments were quite logical, and he convinced many people by all his words that “Love doesn’t exist”.
Then one day this man was walking in the park, and there on a bench was a beautiful woman who was crying. When he saw her crying, he felt curious. He went on to sit beside her, and asked if he could help her. He asked why she was crying. You can imagine his surprise when she told him that she was crying because love doesn’t exist. He said. “This is amazing – a woman who believes that love doesn’t exist.” Of course, he wanted to know more about her.
“Why do you say that love doesn’t exist?” he asked.
“Well, it’s a long story.” She replied. “I married when I was very young, with all the loves and illusions, and full of hopes that I would share my life with this man. We swore to each other our loyalty, respect, and honor, and we created a family. But soon everything changed. I was the devoted wife who took care of the children and the home. My husband continued to develop his career; his success and image outside of home was more important to him than family. He lost respect for me, and I lost respect for him. We hurt each other, and at a certain point. I discovered that I didn’t love him and he didn’t love me either.
“But the children needed a father, and that was my excuse to stay and to do whatever I could to support him. Now the children are grown and they have left. I no longer have any excuse to stay with him. There’s no respect; there’s no kindness. I know that even if I find someone else, it is going to be the same, because love doesn’t exist. There is no sense to look around for something that doesn’t exist. That is why I am crying.”
The man understands her very well. He embraced her and said, “You are right; love doesn’t exist. We look for love, we open our heart and we become vulnerable, just to find selfishness. That hurts us even if we don’t’ think we will be hurt. It doesn’t matter how many relationship we have; the same thing happens again and again. Why even bother to search for love any longer?”
They were so much alike, and they became the best friends ever. It was a wonderful relationship. They respected each other, and they never put each other down. With every step they took together, they were happy. There was no envy or jealousy, there was no control, there was no possessiveness. The relationship kept growing and growing. They loved to be together, because when they were together they had a lot of fun. When they were not together, they missed each other.
One day when the man was out of town, he had the weirdest idea. He was thinking, “Hmmm, maybe what I feel for her is love. But this is so different from what I have ever felt before. It is not what the poets say it is, and it is not what the religions say it is, because I am not responsible for her. I don’t take anything from her, I don’t have the need for her to take care of me;, I don’t need to blame her for my difficulties or to take my dramas to her. We have the best time together; we enjoy each other. I respect the way she thinks, the way she feels. She does not embarrass me; she does not bother me at all. I don’t feel jealous when she‘s with other people; I don’t feel envy when she is successful. Perhaps love does exist, but it’s not what everyone thinks love is.”
He could hardly wait to go back home and talk to her, and to let her know about his weird idea. As soon as he started talking, she said, “I know exactly what you are talking about. I had the same idea long ago, but I didn’t want to share it with you because I know you don’t believe in love. Perhaps love does exist, but it isn’t what we thought it was.” They decide to become lovers and to live together, and it was amazing that thing didn’t change. They still respected each other, they were still support of each other, and the love grew more and more. Even the simplest things made their hearts sing with love because they were so happy.
The man’s heart was so full with all the love he felt, and one night a great miracle happened. He was looking at the stars and he found the most beautiful one, and his love was so big that the star started coming down from the sky and soon that star was in his hands. Then a second miracle happened… his soul merged with that star. He was intensely happy, and he could hardly wait to go to the woman and put that star in her hands to prove this love to her. As soon as he put the star in her hands, she felt a moment of doubt. This love was so overwhelming that in that moment, the star fell from her hands and broke into a million little pieces.
Now there is an old man walking around the world swearing that love doesn’t exist. And there is a beautiful old woman at home waiting for a man, shedding tears for a paradise that she once had in her hands, but for one moment of doubt, she let it go. This is the story about the man who didn’t believe in love.
Who made the mistake? Do you want to guess what went wrong? The mistake was on the man’s part in thinking he could give the woman his happiness. The star was his happiness, and his mistake was to put his happiness in her hands. Happiness never comes from outside of us. He was happy because of the love coming out of him; she was happy because of the love coming out of her. However, as soon as he made her responsible for his happiness, she broke the star because she could not be responsible for his happiness.
No matter how much the woman loved him, she could never make him happy because she could never know what he had in his mind. She could never know what his expectations were, because she could not know his dreams. Especially a lot of us don’t even know that ourselves, and how could one expect other to know us better.
If we take our happiness and put it in someone’s hands, eventually, she is going to break it. If we give our happiness to someone else, she can always take it away. If happiness come from inside of us and is the result of our love, then we are responsible for our own happiness.
probably true love do exists but not in the conventional school of thought that we all hold. loving someone makes you happy because she/he is happy. when it is two-way, happiness doubles. just remember to not let the other party be responsible for your happiness because that is where expectations and stress come in, creating tensions and unnecessary problems. but given the daily routined life of sharing bills and living under the same roof, it is so easy to forget this simple rule of love.
delight in your own happiness, share what can be shared without expecting anything in return. keep the rest to yourself.
“The Mastery of Love”, author Don Miguel Ruiz
There was an ordinary man just like you and me, but what made this man special was his way of thinking – “he thought love does not exist”. Of course, he had observed the people around him and had many experiences trying to find love. Much of his life has been spent searching for love, only to find that love did not exist.
Wherever this man went, he used to tell people that love is nothing but an invention of the poets, and invention of religions just to manipulate the weak mind of humans, so that they can have control over humans. He said that love is not real, and that is why no human could ever find love even though he might look for it.
This man was highly intelligent, and he was very convincing that he could stand in any public place, in front of any kind of people, and share his thoughts, and his logic is very strong. He read a lot of books, he went to the best universities, and he became a respected scholar. What he said was that love is just like a drug, it makes you very high, but it creates a strong need. You can become highly addicted to love, but what happens when you don’t receive your daily doses of love? Just like a drug, you need your everyday doses.
He used to say that most relationships between lovers are just like a relationship between a drug addict and the one who provides the drugs. The one who has the biggest need is like the drug addict; the one who has little need is the one who controls the whole relationship. You can see this dynamic so clearly because usually in every relationship there is one who loves the most and the other who doesn’t, and who only takes advantage of the one who gives his or her heart. You can see the way they manipulate each other, their actions and reactions, and they are just like the provider and the drug addict.
The drug addict is the one who has the biggest need, lives in constant fear that perhaps he will not be able to get the next dosage of love, or the drug he so desire to. The drug addict thinks, “What am I going to do if she leaves me?” That fear makes the drug addict very possessive. “That’s mine!” The addict becomes jealous and demanding, because the fear of not having the next dosage. The provider can control and manipulate the one who needs the drug by giving more doses, fewer doses, or no doses at all. The one who has the biggest need completely surrenders and will do whatever he can to avoid being abandoned.
The man went on explaining to everyone why love doesn’t exist. “What human call ‘love’ is nothing but a fear relationship based on control. Where is the respect? Where is the love they claim to have? There is no love. The young couples in front of the representation of God, in front of their family and friends, made a lot of promises to each other; to live together forever, to love and respect each other, to be there for each other, through the good times and the bad times. They promise to love and honor each other, and make promises and more promises. What is amazing is that they really believe these promises. But you can see that none of these promises are kept after one week, one month, or few months after the marriage”.
“What you find is a war of control to see who will manipulate whom. Who will be the provider, and who will have the addiction? You will find, few months later after their marriage, that the respect they swear to have for each other is gone. You can see the resentment, the emotional poisons, and how they hurt each other, little by little, and It grows and grows, until the love stops. Somehow, they do not even know when it stops. They stay together because they are afraid to be alone, afraid of the opinions and judgments of others, and also afraid of their own judgments and opinions. However, where is the love (that they once knew they had)?
He used to claim that he saw many old couples that had lived together thirty years, forty years and fifty years, and they were so proud to have lived together all those years. However, when they talked about their relationship, what they said was, “We survived the matrimony.” That means one of them surrendered to the other; at a certain time, she gave up and decided to endure the suffering. The one with the strongest will and less need won the war, but where is that flame they call love? They treat each other like a possession: “She is mine.” “He is mine.”…
The man went on and on about all the reasons why he believed love doesn’t exist, and he told others, “I have done all that already. I will no longer allow anyone to manipulate my mind and control my life in the name of love.” His arguments were quite logical, and he convinced many people by all his words that “Love doesn’t exist”.
Then one day this man was walking in the park, and there on a bench was a beautiful woman who was crying. When he saw her crying, he felt curious. He went on to sit beside her, and asked if he could help her. He asked why she was crying. You can imagine his surprise when she told him that she was crying because love doesn’t exist. He said. “This is amazing – a woman who believes that love doesn’t exist.” Of course, he wanted to know more about her.
“Why do you say that love doesn’t exist?” he asked.
“Well, it’s a long story.” She replied. “I married when I was very young, with all the loves and illusions, and full of hopes that I would share my life with this man. We swore to each other our loyalty, respect, and honor, and we created a family. But soon everything changed. I was the devoted wife who took care of the children and the home. My husband continued to develop his career; his success and image outside of home was more important to him than family. He lost respect for me, and I lost respect for him. We hurt each other, and at a certain point. I discovered that I didn’t love him and he didn’t love me either.
“But the children needed a father, and that was my excuse to stay and to do whatever I could to support him. Now the children are grown and they have left. I no longer have any excuse to stay with him. There’s no respect; there’s no kindness. I know that even if I find someone else, it is going to be the same, because love doesn’t exist. There is no sense to look around for something that doesn’t exist. That is why I am crying.”
The man understands her very well. He embraced her and said, “You are right; love doesn’t exist. We look for love, we open our heart and we become vulnerable, just to find selfishness. That hurts us even if we don’t’ think we will be hurt. It doesn’t matter how many relationship we have; the same thing happens again and again. Why even bother to search for love any longer?”
They were so much alike, and they became the best friends ever. It was a wonderful relationship. They respected each other, and they never put each other down. With every step they took together, they were happy. There was no envy or jealousy, there was no control, there was no possessiveness. The relationship kept growing and growing. They loved to be together, because when they were together they had a lot of fun. When they were not together, they missed each other.
One day when the man was out of town, he had the weirdest idea. He was thinking, “Hmmm, maybe what I feel for her is love. But this is so different from what I have ever felt before. It is not what the poets say it is, and it is not what the religions say it is, because I am not responsible for her. I don’t take anything from her, I don’t have the need for her to take care of me;, I don’t need to blame her for my difficulties or to take my dramas to her. We have the best time together; we enjoy each other. I respect the way she thinks, the way she feels. She does not embarrass me; she does not bother me at all. I don’t feel jealous when she‘s with other people; I don’t feel envy when she is successful. Perhaps love does exist, but it’s not what everyone thinks love is.”
He could hardly wait to go back home and talk to her, and to let her know about his weird idea. As soon as he started talking, she said, “I know exactly what you are talking about. I had the same idea long ago, but I didn’t want to share it with you because I know you don’t believe in love. Perhaps love does exist, but it isn’t what we thought it was.” They decide to become lovers and to live together, and it was amazing that thing didn’t change. They still respected each other, they were still support of each other, and the love grew more and more. Even the simplest things made their hearts sing with love because they were so happy.
The man’s heart was so full with all the love he felt, and one night a great miracle happened. He was looking at the stars and he found the most beautiful one, and his love was so big that the star started coming down from the sky and soon that star was in his hands. Then a second miracle happened… his soul merged with that star. He was intensely happy, and he could hardly wait to go to the woman and put that star in her hands to prove this love to her. As soon as he put the star in her hands, she felt a moment of doubt. This love was so overwhelming that in that moment, the star fell from her hands and broke into a million little pieces.
Now there is an old man walking around the world swearing that love doesn’t exist. And there is a beautiful old woman at home waiting for a man, shedding tears for a paradise that she once had in her hands, but for one moment of doubt, she let it go. This is the story about the man who didn’t believe in love.
Who made the mistake? Do you want to guess what went wrong? The mistake was on the man’s part in thinking he could give the woman his happiness. The star was his happiness, and his mistake was to put his happiness in her hands. Happiness never comes from outside of us. He was happy because of the love coming out of him; she was happy because of the love coming out of her. However, as soon as he made her responsible for his happiness, she broke the star because she could not be responsible for his happiness.
No matter how much the woman loved him, she could never make him happy because she could never know what he had in his mind. She could never know what his expectations were, because she could not know his dreams. Especially a lot of us don’t even know that ourselves, and how could one expect other to know us better.
If we take our happiness and put it in someone’s hands, eventually, she is going to break it. If we give our happiness to someone else, she can always take it away. If happiness come from inside of us and is the result of our love, then we are responsible for our own happiness.
probably true love do exists but not in the conventional school of thought that we all hold. loving someone makes you happy because she/he is happy. when it is two-way, happiness doubles. just remember to not let the other party be responsible for your happiness because that is where expectations and stress come in, creating tensions and unnecessary problems. but given the daily routined life of sharing bills and living under the same roof, it is so easy to forget this simple rule of love.
delight in your own happiness, share what can be shared without expecting anything in return. keep the rest to yourself.
14.9.09
delusion
the act of deluding : the state of being deluded
something that is falsely or delusively believed or propagated b : a persistent false psychotic belief regarding the self or persons or objects outside the self that is maintained despite indisputable evidence to the contrary; also : the abnormal state marked by such beliefs
the act of deluding : the state of being deluded
something that is falsely or delusively believed or propagated b : a persistent false psychotic belief regarding the self or persons or objects outside the self that is maintained despite indisputable evidence to the contrary; also : the abnormal state marked by such beliefs
10.9.09
Why?
Today's Verse: 2 Corinthians 1:4
"[God] comes alongside us when we go through hard times, and before you know it, he brings us alongside someone else who is going through hard times so that we can be there for that person just as God was there for us." --MSG[2]
Why do I have to go through all this? When will my life be back to normal? When will all this hardship pass away? Is God really listening to my prayers? Does He truly care?
These are just a few of the many questions we ask ourselves when we're right in the midst of a storm. Everything around (and within) us seems dark and uncertain -and our feelings betray us making us believe that we're alone in this world, that somehow God has forgotten us...
In chapter 3 of the book of Job, the patriarch went even as far as cursing the day he was born! Naturally, his agony had become uncontrollable, the logical reasons behind his suffering senseless, the emotional support he needed not there, and God seemed so far away and uninterested in hearing his case...
In the New Testament the Apostle Paul also experienced very difficult times, including being sent to prison several times for no other reason than his belief in Jesus. During all this, however, he became clear in understanding the spiritual reality behind it all: God was allowing such times to prepare him to be as comforting and encouraging to you and me as God had been to him.
My brother and sister, don't let your present challenges rob you of tomorrow's opportunities to be a blessing to others. Hang on tight and keep trusting that God is still there, and that this temporary test shall also pass. Meanwhile, be assured that someone somewhere sometime will be eternally impacted by your life and forever grateful.
am i shining for you? And... who is shining for me..
"[God] comes alongside us when we go through hard times, and before you know it, he brings us alongside someone else who is going through hard times so that we can be there for that person just as God was there for us." --MSG[2]
Why do I have to go through all this? When will my life be back to normal? When will all this hardship pass away? Is God really listening to my prayers? Does He truly care?
These are just a few of the many questions we ask ourselves when we're right in the midst of a storm. Everything around (and within) us seems dark and uncertain -and our feelings betray us making us believe that we're alone in this world, that somehow God has forgotten us...
In chapter 3 of the book of Job, the patriarch went even as far as cursing the day he was born! Naturally, his agony had become uncontrollable, the logical reasons behind his suffering senseless, the emotional support he needed not there, and God seemed so far away and uninterested in hearing his case...
In the New Testament the Apostle Paul also experienced very difficult times, including being sent to prison several times for no other reason than his belief in Jesus. During all this, however, he became clear in understanding the spiritual reality behind it all: God was allowing such times to prepare him to be as comforting and encouraging to you and me as God had been to him.
My brother and sister, don't let your present challenges rob you of tomorrow's opportunities to be a blessing to others. Hang on tight and keep trusting that God is still there, and that this temporary test shall also pass. Meanwhile, be assured that someone somewhere sometime will be eternally impacted by your life and forever grateful.
am i shining for you? And... who is shining for me..
25.8.09
Power of Believing
“With a positive mind there's a benefit; and that's you discovering an entirely new and wonderful person! That someone currently lies dormant within you. You will discover a new-found happiness, an exciting self, and soon that internal you will be externalised, allowing you to have a joyful and positive attitude at all times throughout your life; even when you encounter problems or difficulties.
Creating a positive mind only requires your commitment to it, and making it work for you. No matter how strange a way of thinking it may seem to you at first, the more you put into it and practise it, the more rewards you will reap.
In this article we're going to discover the power of 'believing' - and how you can change your life in a few simple steps.
I'm sure that you've been told sometime during your life that if you 'have faith', that you 'truly believe' in something, then it really will happen. I know a lot of people don't completely accept this idea, and then there are those who say they've tried practising it but have never achieved any tangible results. But there are also those who are living examples of this thinking - and they are the people who truly practise the 'power of believing' and have tremendous success too.
Researchers have found that what we think and the state of our mind has a direct effect on our life, our current reality and on how healthy we are. In particular a number of recent scientific studies have examined the 'power of believing' and how beliefs impact on our health. Those who believe they are sick and are going to die will not cope nearly as well as those who 'believe' they can recover and will survive. Many doctors have discovered the power of positive thinking - for example specialists at the Sloan-Kettering Cancer Centre in America are teaching cancer patients how their beliefs can make a difference to their chances of survival.
What you believe is WHAT you get - I think that just about sums it up nicely. Again there will be those of you who may not accept that entirely; but this is what happens when you believe something.
If you believe that relationships are difficult and require a lot of work, then you will only attract people who will make your relationships difficult, or influence you to put a lot of work into them. Or if you worry about something happening to you, you will quite likely, over time, generate that scenario - a sobering thought isn't it!
Of course that doesn't happen all the time; when you worry, a small part of you is still hopeful of a positive outcome, and this helps avoid a complete disaster. However if you were only to worry about some future event, considering only the worst case scenario, certain of a negative outcome, then you're in line for a pretty miserable time.
However there's more to 'believing' than merely creating beliefs. Possessing a positive belief system is just the first step to creating a more successful life. Let's take an example - you might have a positive attitude about money; you believe there are plenty of ways to make money, yet you only ever seem to have enough to get by on. Money comes in, and money goes out again - there never seems enough to create a more relaxed feeling about having plenty. That's because somewhere deep in your subconscious you may be saying the opposite, that you will never have enough money, who are you to think you deserve so much more.
Many of us have been brought up not to 'believe'; society surrounds us, envelops us in believing life is tough, that we have to fight to get ahead, or even stay afloat. We're taught that if you can't see it, touch it, then it's not real, non-existent, that it's an unacceptable way of going about our lives.
Believing something, is trusting that your deepest desires can and will happen. Believing is leaving no room what-so-ever, not a nanosecond of doubt that what you want will happen. So many of us in the rush and confusion of modern life are missing this element. Each day is taken up entirely at the beck and call of others, leaving little or no time for ourselves - time necessary to create our own future and fulfil our greatest ambitions. If you truly believe that you can be happy, and achieve those dreams you have, then you will transform your life.
I'm going to ask you three questions.
• Do you believe, without a moments doubt that you can and will have exactly the life you desire?
• Do you believe wholeheartedly you will be guided to those goals, those desires, those right situations to
get where you want to be?
• Do you believe there is always a way to achieve your goals, even when you have setbacks?
If you wavered on any part of those questions, then you don't 'believe', and you won't achieve the life you want. To 'believe' is to trust entirely that everything will work out - that you have it in you to find solutions and a way of achieving your goals.
Let me give you an example of true 'believing'. If you've been fortunate enough to have had a beautiful son or daughter, or perhaps more than one - think of the first time you saw them - did you ever doubt for a moment that they wouldn't grow up; be able to walk, to talk to you, it was only a matter of time. Yet when you first held your child in your arms, it was incapable of doing anything. It couldn't feed itself, tell you what it wanted, or how it felt, it couldn't walk, it couldn't do anything for itself. But did you ever doubt it wouldn't develop these skills? The answer is no; not for a moment did you believe this beautiful child would not grow up, be able to walk, and talk, and communicate with you and the world.
Now, that is the sort of belief I'm getting at, that's exactly the belief structure you need in place to achieve your goals. You have to BELIEVE that what you most desire will come to you - without a doubt, you must trust that it is within you to create everything you wish for.
Ok you might be saying, I now see the truth in what you say, but how do I get that belief structure into my psyche. Well firstly you will get there by taking small steps. By setting small goals for yourself, even goals that you know will happen, then you must trust and let go - let go of doubt, just let go and let these things happen. Sounds a bit too simple? Right, lets take a simple scenario; going to work, driving, taking the train or bus, however you travel, simply trust you will get there on time, then let go - you will find you arrive on time, with no stress, you've had an easy trip.
Try this. Next time you lose something, your car keys perhaps - tell yourself you know where they are, trust you will find them - then let go; do something else for a moment and see what happens. I bet you find them! Your subconscious knows exactly where you left them, when you relax and trust, a vision will come into your conscious mind reminding you where you left them.
When you have a tough decision to make, in fact any decision you're not too sure about, tell yourself that you will come to the right conclusion, believe you will find the best result for you and those involved - then let go. That is the key, learn to let go, trust and let go, believe it will happen, disengage for a while. After a time you'll discover the answer to your question, any question.
Worry is the reverse of trusting and believing, by worrying we're saying we don't believe, but at the same time trying to convince ourselves that we can make it better, but you can't - so disengage, trust, believe and see what happens. Develop small goals into your daily life, and then when you need to make the big decisions, you will trust the process and know it works - you'll 'BELIEVE' that great things can happen for YOU too!”
This came into the office mailbox early at ten in the morn. This might not be all that convincing because, the sender seems to have everything in place in life. Health, wealth, love, job, frenships, and the nitty gritty tins that cheered her life on throughout these years. I don’t call them luck. I believe they’re blessings fr above. Not to say that she didn’t work hard for them, I believe she has always been fighting hard in life to keep up with her own pace. N so she deserves everything she has today. of coz, more to come.
Now, what about me? Didn’t I work hard enough through these years? Why am I here where I am, grumbling each day abt what im doing, what and who I don’t have in life.. etc? not that I didn’t, but probably becoz I cld hav done better. Made wiser decisions, chose a diff path, a diff person, etc. the power to believe? I don’t believe in myself. I only believe in the maker. That may be a defence for myself so that if I fail time n time again, I don’t need to blame myself. Not that I can blame Him. But then I can.. at least.. know that things happen for a reason despite me not being able to see it now. And continue to trust and walk on. N that is precisely what im doing. Just .. bear with my grumblings in the meantime. Can you?
N so! What I take home from this article is.. keep believing! I will! N .. choose to be happy. Tough as I said, but I’ll be content with what I have now. At least I still have a shelter to stay in, my parents n family are healthy n peaceful, I hope. That’s really all I want for now. Also, not to brood over ppl who aren’t worth it. Someone else commented I hav inferiority complex, I think it’s precisely becoz of whom that made me into who I am tdy. Not believing that I am the best now, n not worthy of his and other’s love. Damn. Move on, I know, ditch whateva n whoever that made me feel unworthy, and embrace whateva’s coming my way.
Maintaining a relnship is tough, precisely because maintaining a healthy self esteem requires as much effort. Choosing and deciding to be joyful each and everyday, smiling in the heart as u awake each morning. Alright, these are some pointers to keep in mind.. meanwhile, believing that I’ll pull through the coming mth end and the jap exam. Wanted a short trip too but decided otherwise because of it. Anyway, Mayday’s concert this coming fri will definitely lift my mood up! Ganbaru!
Creating a positive mind only requires your commitment to it, and making it work for you. No matter how strange a way of thinking it may seem to you at first, the more you put into it and practise it, the more rewards you will reap.
In this article we're going to discover the power of 'believing' - and how you can change your life in a few simple steps.
I'm sure that you've been told sometime during your life that if you 'have faith', that you 'truly believe' in something, then it really will happen. I know a lot of people don't completely accept this idea, and then there are those who say they've tried practising it but have never achieved any tangible results. But there are also those who are living examples of this thinking - and they are the people who truly practise the 'power of believing' and have tremendous success too.
Researchers have found that what we think and the state of our mind has a direct effect on our life, our current reality and on how healthy we are. In particular a number of recent scientific studies have examined the 'power of believing' and how beliefs impact on our health. Those who believe they are sick and are going to die will not cope nearly as well as those who 'believe' they can recover and will survive. Many doctors have discovered the power of positive thinking - for example specialists at the Sloan-Kettering Cancer Centre in America are teaching cancer patients how their beliefs can make a difference to their chances of survival.
What you believe is WHAT you get - I think that just about sums it up nicely. Again there will be those of you who may not accept that entirely; but this is what happens when you believe something.
If you believe that relationships are difficult and require a lot of work, then you will only attract people who will make your relationships difficult, or influence you to put a lot of work into them. Or if you worry about something happening to you, you will quite likely, over time, generate that scenario - a sobering thought isn't it!
Of course that doesn't happen all the time; when you worry, a small part of you is still hopeful of a positive outcome, and this helps avoid a complete disaster. However if you were only to worry about some future event, considering only the worst case scenario, certain of a negative outcome, then you're in line for a pretty miserable time.
However there's more to 'believing' than merely creating beliefs. Possessing a positive belief system is just the first step to creating a more successful life. Let's take an example - you might have a positive attitude about money; you believe there are plenty of ways to make money, yet you only ever seem to have enough to get by on. Money comes in, and money goes out again - there never seems enough to create a more relaxed feeling about having plenty. That's because somewhere deep in your subconscious you may be saying the opposite, that you will never have enough money, who are you to think you deserve so much more.
Many of us have been brought up not to 'believe'; society surrounds us, envelops us in believing life is tough, that we have to fight to get ahead, or even stay afloat. We're taught that if you can't see it, touch it, then it's not real, non-existent, that it's an unacceptable way of going about our lives.
Believing something, is trusting that your deepest desires can and will happen. Believing is leaving no room what-so-ever, not a nanosecond of doubt that what you want will happen. So many of us in the rush and confusion of modern life are missing this element. Each day is taken up entirely at the beck and call of others, leaving little or no time for ourselves - time necessary to create our own future and fulfil our greatest ambitions. If you truly believe that you can be happy, and achieve those dreams you have, then you will transform your life.
I'm going to ask you three questions.
• Do you believe, without a moments doubt that you can and will have exactly the life you desire?
• Do you believe wholeheartedly you will be guided to those goals, those desires, those right situations to
get where you want to be?
• Do you believe there is always a way to achieve your goals, even when you have setbacks?
If you wavered on any part of those questions, then you don't 'believe', and you won't achieve the life you want. To 'believe' is to trust entirely that everything will work out - that you have it in you to find solutions and a way of achieving your goals.
Let me give you an example of true 'believing'. If you've been fortunate enough to have had a beautiful son or daughter, or perhaps more than one - think of the first time you saw them - did you ever doubt for a moment that they wouldn't grow up; be able to walk, to talk to you, it was only a matter of time. Yet when you first held your child in your arms, it was incapable of doing anything. It couldn't feed itself, tell you what it wanted, or how it felt, it couldn't walk, it couldn't do anything for itself. But did you ever doubt it wouldn't develop these skills? The answer is no; not for a moment did you believe this beautiful child would not grow up, be able to walk, and talk, and communicate with you and the world.
Now, that is the sort of belief I'm getting at, that's exactly the belief structure you need in place to achieve your goals. You have to BELIEVE that what you most desire will come to you - without a doubt, you must trust that it is within you to create everything you wish for.
Ok you might be saying, I now see the truth in what you say, but how do I get that belief structure into my psyche. Well firstly you will get there by taking small steps. By setting small goals for yourself, even goals that you know will happen, then you must trust and let go - let go of doubt, just let go and let these things happen. Sounds a bit too simple? Right, lets take a simple scenario; going to work, driving, taking the train or bus, however you travel, simply trust you will get there on time, then let go - you will find you arrive on time, with no stress, you've had an easy trip.
Try this. Next time you lose something, your car keys perhaps - tell yourself you know where they are, trust you will find them - then let go; do something else for a moment and see what happens. I bet you find them! Your subconscious knows exactly where you left them, when you relax and trust, a vision will come into your conscious mind reminding you where you left them.
When you have a tough decision to make, in fact any decision you're not too sure about, tell yourself that you will come to the right conclusion, believe you will find the best result for you and those involved - then let go. That is the key, learn to let go, trust and let go, believe it will happen, disengage for a while. After a time you'll discover the answer to your question, any question.
Worry is the reverse of trusting and believing, by worrying we're saying we don't believe, but at the same time trying to convince ourselves that we can make it better, but you can't - so disengage, trust, believe and see what happens. Develop small goals into your daily life, and then when you need to make the big decisions, you will trust the process and know it works - you'll 'BELIEVE' that great things can happen for YOU too!”
This came into the office mailbox early at ten in the morn. This might not be all that convincing because, the sender seems to have everything in place in life. Health, wealth, love, job, frenships, and the nitty gritty tins that cheered her life on throughout these years. I don’t call them luck. I believe they’re blessings fr above. Not to say that she didn’t work hard for them, I believe she has always been fighting hard in life to keep up with her own pace. N so she deserves everything she has today. of coz, more to come.
Now, what about me? Didn’t I work hard enough through these years? Why am I here where I am, grumbling each day abt what im doing, what and who I don’t have in life.. etc? not that I didn’t, but probably becoz I cld hav done better. Made wiser decisions, chose a diff path, a diff person, etc. the power to believe? I don’t believe in myself. I only believe in the maker. That may be a defence for myself so that if I fail time n time again, I don’t need to blame myself. Not that I can blame Him. But then I can.. at least.. know that things happen for a reason despite me not being able to see it now. And continue to trust and walk on. N that is precisely what im doing. Just .. bear with my grumblings in the meantime. Can you?
N so! What I take home from this article is.. keep believing! I will! N .. choose to be happy. Tough as I said, but I’ll be content with what I have now. At least I still have a shelter to stay in, my parents n family are healthy n peaceful, I hope. That’s really all I want for now. Also, not to brood over ppl who aren’t worth it. Someone else commented I hav inferiority complex, I think it’s precisely becoz of whom that made me into who I am tdy. Not believing that I am the best now, n not worthy of his and other’s love. Damn. Move on, I know, ditch whateva n whoever that made me feel unworthy, and embrace whateva’s coming my way.
Maintaining a relnship is tough, precisely because maintaining a healthy self esteem requires as much effort. Choosing and deciding to be joyful each and everyday, smiling in the heart as u awake each morning. Alright, these are some pointers to keep in mind.. meanwhile, believing that I’ll pull through the coming mth end and the jap exam. Wanted a short trip too but decided otherwise because of it. Anyway, Mayday’s concert this coming fri will definitely lift my mood up! Ganbaru!
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